Nervous About Your Big Day? Here’s Our Top Tips

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How to keep calm and carry on in the face of wedding day nerves

As your wedding day approaches it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by nerves, but our tips will help you keep calm and enjoy the happiest day of your life.

Your wedding is meant to be one of the best days of your life, but it’s also a really important occasion and, as the big day approaches, many brides and grooms can find themselves feeling overwhelmed by nerves.

As an Essex wedding venue with many years of experience, we’ve calmed our fair share of stressed out couples. So, if you’re suffering from wedding nerves, here are some tips that will help you to keep calm and carry on.


There are a lot of different elements that go into planning a wedding, and with so many things to think about it’s easy to understand why many couples get stressed and nervous. The best way to deal with this is to prepare thoroughly – write a detailed list of everything that needs to be done and who is responsible for each task.  While this is no cast-iron guarantee of everything going smoothly, it certainly increases your chances of a problem-free wedding, and you will also feel more in control which, in turn, will help to banish those nerves.

And if it all still seems overwhelming, don’t be afraid to delegate. This is the one time you can get away with being a little bit bossy, so take advantage of it!

Take a break

Having said all that, while careful preparation is important, it’s also vital to take a break from wedding planning and carve out some quality time for yourself and your partner. Take a long bath, read a book, or arrange a romantic date night where any wedding talk is strictly prohibited. Stepping back from wedding planning occasionally and practicing some self-care can really help to relieve the pressure, leaving you feeling refreshed and looking forward to your big day.

Get your beauty sleep

A good night’s sleep is proven to help your body cope with stress, so it’s important to make sure that you get plenty of good quality rest on the run up to your wedding. However, feeling stressed or nervous can interfere with our sleep cycles, so, as strange as it sounds, you may need to put some effort into getting a good night’s sleep. Switch off from wedding planning by reading a book or watching a favourite TV series, take a warm bath, and scent your pillow with lavender to help calm you down and send you off to the land of nod.

Take a breath

If you’re feeling anxious on the wedding day itself some simple breathing exercises can help to get you back on an even keel. Take a slow, deep breath in through your nose, keeping your shoulders relaxed, and exhale slowly through your mouth. By repeating this sequence several times you can reduce feelings of anxiety, leaving you feeling calmer and in control.


Above all else, make sure you enjoy the day. It’s meant to be the happiest day of your life so don’t sweat the small stuff. Instead try to keep your mind on the bigger picture and remember why you are doing this. You’ll soon find any nerves melting away.